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The gift of each other

Motherhood Challenges, gift for each other, gift, motherhood, love, challenges, life, joy, happiness, heart, heartbreaking, sadness, teachings, love, Gulmohar Doodles, Puneeta Prakash blogBalakrishnan K

It was a warm, cosy, golden evening. The thousand golden beams of the sun was making our dusky skin glow in its presence. In that trance, soaking myself in that magical moment, I heard a faint voice of my mom saying – “How nice it is to see your small little kid playing in front of you. Soon they grow up, become independent and then leave. It is very heartbreaking to see them grow and then go. If only I could keep all three of you here. As my tiny kids you all once were. Giggling, dancing, hopping around and needing me all the time. Those were good old days. I miss them.” My heart stopped for a moment, I looked straight in her old wrinkly eyes and knew exactly what she meant. After all, I have become a mother myself now. I hugged my mom and thought, indeed we are a gift to each other. No doubt, the love and bonding between a mother and her kids are so divine yet so serene, so difficult yet so easy, so complex yet so simple, so giving yet so receiving.

A good old twenty-four months back, I didn’t imagine writing this post. All I wanted, imagined, hoped and prayed in that insanity was that the day comes as fast as possible where my little one gets more independent and I get some time of my own. I thought then, my life would be easier and I would be hopping around in joy.

Motherhood Challenges, gift for each other, gift, motherhood, love, challenges, life, joy, happiness, heart, heartbreaking, sadness, teachings, love, Gulmohar Doodles, Puneeta Prakash blogBalakrishnan K

Gosh, I was wrong! I was so wrong! As the days have passed since my little bundle of joy took birth, I have realized that how much I have gotten attached to her and her presence around me 24/7. Her nonstop needs has kept me on my toes most of the days. I cannot fathom when the insanity, the tiredness and the continuous need of someone, became my life, my identity. My heart breaks into a million pieces in all those tiny moments, in which my tiny girl becomes a bit more independent and in the process doesn’t need me anymore. I have felt a lump in my throat, a sudden heaviness in my heart and I tremble thinking that – “Is this it? When did my girl become so big? When did my tiny tot become a big self efficient girl? Was it suppose to end so soon? I mean, yes I wanted it, but wait, is it already time? It cannot be. Please!”

As much as I have felt happier with her every step of independence, somewhere my heart knows that soon she would become fully independent and I might not be needed any more. Might be yes, at times, in certain situations/ circumstances, but not as it is right now! I cannot understand the sadness behind my this feeling. Why did my heart swell up seeing my daughter’s first steps, picking her own spoon, walking and running on her own, climbing and jumping without assistance and going to her school without the usual crying? Every time my heart has twitched a bit more. I remember crying for hours thinking of her “big achievements”.

Motherhood Challenges, gift for each other, gift, motherhood, love, challenges, life, joy, happiness, heart, heartbreaking, sadness, teachings, love, Gulmohar Doodles, Puneeta Prakash blogBalakrishnan K

God! How I sobbed like a petty girl, on the first day of her school not having her around hopping and messing around with our plates, spoon and cups when me and my husband sat for our breakfast. I couldn’t eat anything and all I could think of was her. I swear, I had hated all those days when she would spill the tea, or drop the food fumbling while trying to lift it with the spoon. How I wanted to eat peacefully once in my life. But no, there I sat on my chair on that day, and all I thought and wished was her presence. How I wished to see the spilled tea and the dirty floor and that innocent smirky laugh!

Isn’t it how it is suppose to be? My little girl is growing and is happy. Wasn’t this what I prayed for once? Then why does it hurt so much? The first time she refused to hold my fingers while taking her big steps on her own, refusing my help with a big smile on her face climbing on the bed, holding the spoon firmly between her fingers while trying to eat herself, opening the water bottle and drinking water on her own, getting ready for school without any reluctance, trying to hold her school bag on her own shoulders and then putting the blanket on mamma and herself while they both cosy up together! How fast the days went by. Sigh! Is this what it means when people say – “Enjoy it while it lasts?” Is this what motherhood really is? Trying to hold the moment in your fist as long as possible even while you want it to go? Just try to hold on to that moment, that small happiness, that tiny need, that feeling a bit more longer. And in those moments know that you wouldn’t be needed any more. The constant war between your heart and your brain of holding on and not letting go? Isn’t that heart wrenching? It certainly is!

Motherhood Challenges, gift for each other, gift, motherhood, love, challenges, life, joy, happiness, heart, heartbreaking, sadness, teachings, love, Gulmohar Doodles, Puneeta Prakash blogBalakrishnan K

I have no idea how our moms have let us, their tiny babies, the apple of their eyes let them go away far from them. I am sure their hearts would have ached each time they would have seen us being independent or getting a bit more away from them. Or might be loneliness has taken a toll on us? Maybe we women overthink. And as a consequence, we die a thousand deaths every minute in different ways. Our hearts flutter even with the slightest wind of anxiety. We cry, wipe our tears, swallow our pride, our ego and think – “I will sail through this too. The ones we love the most should be set free. They would either find happiness on their own or return back to us.”

One thing is for sure. Motherhood has taught me that we woman bear a lot. What might seem stupid to a normal man could be a storm inside us. We enjoy and soak ourselves in each and every emotion. We let ourselves go. Get immersed in the sea of the insanity called motherhood and stay in that without breathing. And as soon as we start getting comfortable and start liking that feeling of being in that state, we need to come out of it bit by bit. We don’t know how to feel, good or bad? That’s what motherhood does to you.

Motherhood Challenges, gift for each other, gift, motherhood, love, challenges, life, joy, happiness, heart, heartbreaking, sadness, teachings, love, Gulmohar Doodles, Puneeta Prakash blogBalakrishnan K

I have celebrated my daughter’s every tiny achievement. My eyes have beamed with happiness, pride and sadness at the same time. I am a bit more liberated now. I am becoming independent in the process of making my child independent. But, do I really want this phase to end? Since when the thought of life getting a bit more easier has gotten my heart break a bit more? I guess that’s what motherhood brings and teaches you 🙁 ❤️

A big shout-out to all the moms out there. Love and hugs. Remember, you are not alone.

Sleek CSS3 Drop Shadow Effect Without Images

The evolution of CSS3 and HTML 5 has actually made it possible to create drop-shadows using pseudo-elements. It’s a nice and robust way to progressively enhance a design. A couple of pseudo-elements (.drop-shadow:before, .drop-shadow:after) are generated from an element and then pushed behind it. The pseudo-elements need to be positioned and given explicit or implicit dimensions. The next step is to add a CSS3 box-shadow and apply CSS3 transforms. Different types of drop-shadow can be produced by varying these values and the types of transforms applied. The box-shadow property allows you to easily create multiple drop shadows on box elements by specifying values for colour, size, blur and offset.

box-shadow property:

The box-shadow property allows you to add multiple shadows (outer or inner) on box elements. To do that you must specify values as: color, size, blur and offset.

box-shadow: horizontal  vertical  blur  spread  colour;

  1. A positive value for the horizontal offset draws a shadow that is offset to the right of the box, a negative length to the left.
  2. The second length is the vertical offset. A positive value for the vertical offset basically offsets the shadow down, a negative one up.
  3. You’re not allowed to use negative values for blur radius. The larger the value, the more the shadow’s edge is blurred, as it can be seen above.
  4. Spread distance positive values cause the shadow shape to expand in all directions by the specified radius.
  5. Negative ones cause the shadow shape to contract.
  6. The color is the color of the shadow.
  7. The inset keyword , changes the drop shadow from an outer shadow to an inner shadow. Exclude the word if you want an outer shadow.

Examples:

box-shadow: 10px 10px;
box-shadow: 10px 10px 5px #888888;
box-shadow: inset 2px 2px 2px 2px #000000;
box-shadow: 10px 10px #888888, -10px -10px #f4f4f4, 0px 0px 5px 5px #cc6600;

Enough theory, let’s see some stuff!! 😀

Code:

.shadow {

-moz-box-shadow: 3px 3px 5px 6px #666666;

-webkit-box-shadow: 3px 3px 5px 6px #666666;

box-shadow: 3px 3px 5px 6px #666666;

}


Code:

.shadow {

-moz-box-shadow: inset 0 0 10px #666666;

-webkit-box-shadow: inset 0 0 10px #666666;

box-shadow: inset 0 0 10px #666666;

}

Code:

.shadow {

-webkit-box-shadow: 0 8px 6px -6px #000000;

-moz-box-shadow: 0 8px 6px -6px #000000;

box-shadow: 0 8px 6px -6px #000000;

}

Code:

.shadow {

-moz-box-shadow: 0 0 5px #000000;

-webkit-box-shadow: 0 0 5px #000000;

box-shadow: 0 0 5px #000000;

}

Browser Support:

All of the major newest browsers support box-shadow property.

  1. Internet Explorer 9.0 and higher
  2. Firefox 3.5 and higher
  3. Chrome 1 and higher
  4. Safari 3 and higher
  5. Opera 10.5 and higher

With many new CSS3 properties you need to prefix the property with browser specific tags.

  1. For firefox you need to use -moz-, for chrome/safari you need to use -webkit.
  2. The box-shadow property is no different.
  3. For Firefox 3.5 you need to prefix with -moz-boz-shadow, but for Firefox 4.0 and higher you don’t need to use the prefix anymore.
  4. For Chrome/safari you still need to use the -webkit-box-shadow.
  5. For opera you don’t need to prefix the property and can just use box-shadow.

Enjoy playing with the different values. Next post will be on how to give advanced drop shadows. Keep practicing till then 🙂

Photoshop Tutorials

Its been a long time since I wrote any tutorial for any site. My first photoshop tutorial got published in psdrockstar.com . And the tutorials were really successful ones. I am so glad so many people liked it and could benefit from it. So, here are the two photoshop tutorial links you might like to see in case you haven’t. 🙂 Please click on the images to go to the respective tutorials.

Floral Text and Butterflies Wallpaper:

Floral Text and Butterflies Wallpaper

Create a Lollipop Girl in Photoshop:

Create a Lollipop Girl in Photoshop

Folks, enjoy the tutorial and please do comment.. 🙂

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